Do all men get scared off by a girl asking them out???

he should still have the decency to let you know, give him a bit of time as there might be a good reason he has not answered.
i would not have a problem if a girl asked me out (my wife would though)

 

Possible.. He could have said something though, its flattery after all. But this gives me the opportunity to relate how i was propositioned at work in my office in the library by the assistant librarian... Really,, i have the emails to prove it... I calmly discussed how i was flattered but not interested. My greatest fear was when arriving and leaving from work as the library was empty, i had recurring nightmares of being knocked unconscious by a hard copy of ''War and Peace'' and being taken advantage of... I feel ive said to much..

 

now then kevin about your dreams

"war and peace" not a good book for the start of something or not

 

How did you ask him out? was it a will you go out with me ... or a would you like to go for a drink/meal etc etc

 

apparently she flashed her tits and said come and get it big boy

 

Ha ha ha !

 

Lol, I wasn't aiming that at you specifically perhaps he's a bit taken back you've asked him out (thinking you were just great friends) and is now thinking about what to do....he probably thinks that if he says no, the text's and chats/banter will stop which you've both enjoyed so much up until now.....

Give him a while, but keep in touch and don't let his lack of response on that matter ruin the enjoyment you've each had so far.

 

Are you "Dear Julie" ?

 

Only at weekends!

 

Chris, you're a natural, seems you've been nominated as the SECb agony aunt.Will you hold surgeries, house calls& late night stuff too?

 

Tanya, I am hesitant to comment because I'm afraid we haven't met yet, but I feel I ought to put in my tuppence-worth in general terms for the sake of all those I do know on here! I am told that the truth is that any, ah, pairing only happens if the woman has already decided that this particular bloke will be a good bet for now. This came as a horrible shock to me as it may to many male readers here, and all you lady readers are not required to protest mildly - we know that part of the skill of being a woman is pretending you are not in charge, not superior and all that.

If your phone has gone horribly quiet, then it's probably because the poor chap simply had absolutely no idea that he might have a chance. Guys can be really, really slow on the uptake. Think back over the emails and texts and conversations you've had: all of the hints and leading indicators you have left in his path over the months may have been passed by because he didn't recognise them for what they are! You may have to set it all out for him in extremely straightforward terms.

When a guy buys a shirt, he determines the shop in advance, goes to the rack where there are shirts for sale, muses for 30 seconds over what colour or pattern, spends precious minutes checking the collar size and price and buys it. Job done. This purchase will not be as a result of the three month's hinting from his Missus that his current collection of clothing is a wee bit deficient. Until he is offered a simple choice like 'no food until you buy a clean shirt', there isn't any motivation. He just won't recognise the message. He won't understand why his woman has made this extraordinary link between providing food and him buying a shirt, but what man ever claims truly to understand the fairer sex? Just to reverse things for a minute, this is why women are often shocked by the abrupt language used by a man they hadn't even noticed until now - hence the high levels of rejection suffered by we men (well, most of us anyway!) The lesson here, guys, is to drop little hints for a goodly time until you actually ask her out. But do try to notice if the little hints are screwed up and thrown into the metaphorical waste paper basket - that would not be a favourable sign. But even if you can't see or understand such responses, you will increase your chances of reaching a favourable conclusion from someone who just needs a bit of time to reckon you up.

So... back to Tanya! May I suggest re-establishing communication: call him; make sure he isn't distracted by anything (I mean, anything - TV, Tax Return, preparation for a meeting, eating - you get the picture) because men can only do one thing at a time, and speak slowly and clearly and say you'd really like to get together. How about tonight?

If he's washing his hair, then let us know and we can compete for your attention.

Hope this helps!
Panel Man is not a professional Relationship Adviser and any actions you take or do not take as a result of reading this post remain your own and Panel Man has no responsibility for any result or outcome whether positive or negative. By reading this post you agree with these terms. Still... Fingers crossed, eh?

 

it just came up in text banter because he is really self deprecating so I said, "youre really dont get it, you are actually really fanciable. I actually had a crush on you from the first time I met you". He replied with "give over, youre winding me up!". I replied with "Right, lets start again...Hi, Im Tanya, I think you are really cute, would you like to go for dinner sometime?" and then waited for the generous round of indifference

 

Spot on PM. Blokes don't do 'hints' or 'hidden signs' & you have to be really blunt to get his attention in that respect. Give him a wedgy, that'll wake him up!

 

Ah, see, I would never do that because that comes across as desperate and men do run a mile if a woman comes on too strong. THAT, I have learnt the hard way.

I feel like Im always in a soap opera

 

Time to grasp the nettle, methinks... how about a telephone conversation? You'll hear the answer in his voice.

 

If what he hears is, "Hello, I want to have your babies and cause you to need a mortgage and be in debt for the remainder of your life" then he may indeed run a mile. It doesn't matter what words you said, it's what he hears that matters. Like I said, men are usually straightforward and only seem devious if they realise they are competing with a far more intelligent force (you)! If what you want is a relationship test drive or walk around the showroom, then that's what you should ask for. Remember: slowly and clearly! Good luck.

 

Can't believe I've just been out & couldn't wait to log back on (yeah, sad innit) to read the latest advice for T. Makes a change from bike related stuff. Not sure I'd like to peer into the female mind too often.

 

Take your phone off of silent mode.